From the Heart…or Out the Ass?

To convey how you feel, what you think, what you mean, what you want or what you are asking with the words from your mouth is a wonderful gift to possess. I do not possess that gift. Often when I speak, the meaning is lost, the question is confusing or the response is harsh. Now that I have turned thirty…I have been gracefully blessed to stutter. Yup. Not fun…and it’s really a pain. But anyway…although I have not been blessed to speak so eloquently, I have been blessed with the gift of writing. I can write just about anything, describe anything, take your mind to a place you have never gone before, or allow every word floating around in your mind to transpire through paper. I love it. It is a release for me. I enjoy it and it sets me free.

I was in a situation not too long ago where someone said to me, “They were just words, Ronny.” Just words. Just words?? Really? Are you negating the fact that words have meaning or do you just speak to hear the audible vibrations come from your diaphragm and shoot through the hole in your face? If words did not have power everybody would be mute. Words are used to express…just as they are used to manipulate. Whether on paper or from your mouth those words are YOUR liability.

You’ve heard the saying “if it sounds to good to be true…it usually is.” When words come from the heart, you feel it, you see it in body language and with eye contact and you hear it with their tone of voice. No matter if they stutter, fumble the words, or say something completely disarray, you are still able to understand what is trying to be conveyed. When someone is speaking from their ass, you usually catch the stench with it. You then have the choice to ignore the stench and try to cover it up with fragrance. Or…you can tell that person (or say it to yourself), I appreciate the time you have taken to speak with me, but until you figure out which hole your voice was meant to be heard from, I will never understand/trust/believe you. Smile…and walk away. Think about the salesman…you know they are doing their job…so you appreciate what they are doing, but you politely decline, smile and walk away. The man that says he wants to marry you and for you to have his baby…when you know he’s said the same to others…beautiful words, eloquently spoken…smile and walk away. True words are backed by actions, feelings and emotion and are not repeated verbatim to another. Repeating the same lines over and over again is called scripted. Eventually that script will get old an you will have to revise it. However, when you speak from your heart, when you truthfully express yourself, its freelance, unscripted, uninhibited and spontaneous. That is what gives your words true meaning and special value. When you speak from your heart you may find that YOU forget exactly what you have said, but the person you were speaking to will cherish, embrace and remember every word.