Makeup/Weave=Security???

So... i was just told a story that a young man wasn't interested in a woman because he felt she wore makeup and weaves due to being insecure. Say HUH??? I actually know this woman, and believe no such thing. I believe she is just as confident without her weave and/or makeup and just as beautiful too.

The funny thing is... he liked EVERYTHING else about her... on paper they are perfect for each other... but that was the one turnoff that kept him from pursuing a second date.

I can only speak for myself, but I do know a few I can speak for that would be okay with me saying this:

Women who wear makeup or weaves: Does NOT mean they are insecure!!! Ya heard???

I REPEAT...

 

Women who wear makeup or weaves: Does NOT mean they are insecure!!!

 

 

I personally think this man thought she was too good for him.. and had to come up with some bullshit to justify his OWN insecurity. Don't get me wrong, I also know some women who are insecure and try to hide beneath the decorations... but that doesn't mean every woman is that way. It also doesn't mean you dismiss a woman because of your own preconceived notions. Get to know her! Maybe once you get to know her well enough, you will earn the right to see her au naturale... but until then.. stop judging the book by the cover!

 

I personally wear weaves a lot. Why? Because i get bored easily with my hairstyle and because my job is not hairstyle friendly lol. I always said.. my hair is the one thing I feel I can control. I can have short hair, long hair, curly hair, braids, sew-ins, wigs, etc. Whatever I'm feeling... I can create. I do my own hair because when I have a vision.. it's important my vision comes to life properly (for a minimal amount of money!) I can't say I wear a lot of makeup, but thats because I have super sensitive skin and I also sweat a lot if working out or at work. I am an "eyeliner-mascara-lipgloss" kinda girl... but love to play with eyeshadow every now and then.

 

Any hoo... so for me.. makeup and weaves have NOTHING to do with my security. Many of my girls wear makeup every day and would not dream of leaving the house without "putting on their face." However, these girls are JUST AS PRETTY without the makeup! They just love to play with their look to match their mood or their outfit.

 

Well... I think I had another point... but I forgot because my mind got sidetracked on something else I forgot I wanted to do. It's midnight of course.. and here I am thinking of something else to do lol

 

I hope you will take this blog and begin to see beneath the surface of a woman's appearance and get to know their insides, before dismissing them for something so unimportant on the outside. Besides, there are many women who have makeup on... that you cannot even notice!

 

If a woman is truly beautiful... she will be beautiful when the makeup/weave is on... and when it's off too. Stop being judgemental.. MEN!

Prayer

When is the last time you prayed? I just prayed maybe 5 minutes ago. It went something like this, "God... am I crazy? But I feel like it's the right thing to do...it's what I need to do. But am I crazy?"

I sound like a repeat button when I say my mind literally races all day... every day... about SOMETHING!! This is no exaggeration. I truly think a LOT. Don't get me wrong, it's not always bad things that I think about or something I am worrying about. There are a lot of things I want to do like today... tomorrow... the next day.. the next year.. the next five years.. etc. I think about a lot of "what ifs"... but then I'm like "what ifs won't happen if you don't start doing something now".. and then I pray about it and start to put together my gameplan. The only thing is... my gameplan gets altered when things happen that are out of my control. However, even though it's out of my control... I still know it's under HIS control and whatever happened... happened for a reason.

I truly believe everything happens for a reason and everyone we meet is for a reason. A couple people I have met lately... I was unsure of their reason for being in my life. It was really bothering me. I was thinking one thing... but God has been showing me something completely different. These people have been showing me myself... through themselves. It's very interesting... and eye opening.

Along with being a thinker, I can also be a very hardheaded thinker. It's very hard to convince me otherwise, when I feel I have already arrived at an answer. The thing is, the answers don't just pop into my head and they are not answers that I make up myself.

I pray. I pray A LOT!!! I wouldn't consider myself an "on the knees.. speaking in tongues.. mekka lekka hoshulu zulu" type of prayer person. Hold on.. let me put out a disclaimer "THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THOSE WHO DO PRAY LIKE THAT!" I'm just saying its not my and God's type of conversation. I do get on my knees sometimes, close my eyes and truly speak/listen to Him... however I would say 90% of my prayers are spoken out loud in my car.. while i'm walking.. as I'm cleaning... basically me and God are in constant communication. I have to pray like that or else I would go insane because my thoughts would consume my mind, body and soul. God is the buffer that helps me sort out this stuff between my ears. Any hoo... so I like to pray... and I am hardheaded. God knows this already... which is why he is constantly SHOWING me my answers! I usually don't get the answer on the first shot... but somewhere around the 10th-20th red and neon flags and flashing bright lights appearing through my life I always end up having an "ohhhhhhhhhh so THAT'S what you were trying to tell me"... followed by a "Really God? I'm not so sure about this... but you ARE the boss... so okay. I'm trusting you." and I let it go. Just like that. I go from a million thoughts per minute.. then dropped. Cause it's in His hands. I'm good... will be good.. cause God's got me and He's NEVER let me down.

So I've just gone on a rant... I know. That's because right before I wrote this blog... God spoke to me about something I have been praying about and going back and forth with for about 2.5 years... and you know what... I gave it to Him. The what-ifs... the fear.. the doubt... it's His because its been wearing me out and leading me in the wrong direction.

My prayer is deep. I am praying for radical change in an area of my life. It's going to be radical because it's not the norm... it's Gods way. It's going to take an enormous amount of faith from me because it's not something I've seen happen. I've heard about it... but never seen it. But who best to trust in regards to making what we perceive as the impossible... to be possible? God. And when I DO see what I thought didn't exist... I will know for sure it's from God. Even better.

So as I end this blog... I will admit... I am a lil scared... but it's a good fear because I know something great will come of this new direction I am moving in. God's got it... so why worry?? Gnite.

Seeing Blindly

I am a woman who tends to see what i WANT to see... at first. I always say I have been blessed with incredible instincts.. which to me.. seem like a blessing and a curse. I love to look for the good, the love, the best... in a person. However, my instincts always tell me when there are negative things I need to be paying attention to.

I'm sure you've assumed this blog is about a man. Yup. But it's about several men, not just one in particular. However, one in particular was the needle that tipped the haystack and led me to write this blog. I can feel when something is not right. I just can. Don't know why... but I can. I may not know WHAT is not right, but I know when there is something that is off.

I recently wrote about a soul-mate... or being a sole mate.. any hoo.... so yea.. i was WRONG lol At least about the soul-mate. I will probably continue being a sole mate for a good lil while if I keep spending my time with men who do not know how to tell the truth.

So I titled this "seeing blindly". I can see what is right in front of me, but I choose to be blind when something bad begins to present itself. Make sense? I know... this is not a good thing. However, I admit that I do this, but I have also recognized when I do it and am able to stop before i REALLY get myself into trouble. The crazy part is, is that I witness so many other women who see blindly everyday. For me.... seeing blindly drives me CRAZY, but I also understand and have been in their position. I'm just glad I'm not in their position anymore.

So today, I challenge you to truly open your eyes. (Tip: prayer. Ask God to open your eyes cause you're probably going to be reluctant to do so on your own.) Really open your eyes. Open your heart. What do you truly see?? What do you truly feel?? Are you ignoring what you hear/feel? Are you choosing to be blind to what you see? This is not an easy task. It may take doing this... many many many times until you are able to unconsciously do so. However, when you do... you'll experience a very bitter sweet moment, that comes with a lot of clarity.

Clarity/closure is what we want right? You can only see clearly if your eyes are open.