My word is my bond. Trust. Real talk. Anybody ever say those words to you? Words. I write them everyday...read them everyday...and hear them everyday. Some words I cling to...and read over and over...listen to over and over. Yet, some words simply mean nothing to me.
Sorry. I can't stand that word. That's a word that has really lost meaning to me. If you come to me, armed with that word, and ONLY that word...you might as well turn around, walk away, and say NOTHING. I don't want to hear it. Even if you really mean it...chances are...I won't believe you until I see something you DO that shows you are sorry.
Respect. Now that's a word that can't be spoken. If you have to tell someone to respect you, you are too late...and don't deserve the word. The only time you can speak the word respect is when you are explaining to someone else how to demonstrate being respectful. If you're trying to be respected by someone else, speaking it or writing it will not do the job. You only get respect, by showing respect and earning it.
Trust me. No muthafucka...don't be distrustful. **I don't usually fix my blogs...but I was informed my last sentence makes no sense. What I meant was, "No muthafucka...don't give me a reason to NOT trust you** You've heard the saying...never trust someone who says "trust me". Trust and respect fall along the same line. If you have to tell someone to trust you...you must have already given them a reason NOT to. Just like respect...trust is earned.
I love you. Really? How? How do you love me? So many people always ask, "Why? Why do you love me or why do you love so-and-so?" No. I want to know HOW. Those three words...are simply words. Overused letters that have been written...said...and heard way too much on TV... cards... movies... everywhere. I'm guilty. I say I love you. I definitely believe the word love needs to be said and written regularly. HOWEVER, it is not a word that can be used alone. How do you love? We all know why you love...it's LOVE...duh. You can't love...without love. Make sense? But how do you do it? You can say it. You can write it. You can touch. You can listen. You can give. You can help. You can provide. You can deny (e.g. Deny someone their keys because they are too drunk to drive. That can be an act of love). Stop saying you love...and DO it. Love is a choice...followed by actions...not just a word. If you LOVE football...then you love by watching the game...studying the game...and if you're fortunate, you play the game. You know that game inside and out...because you study it. Why...because you LOVE it. You know as many aspects of the game as possible, such as players, coaches, rules, teams, trades, contracts, statistics, fields, history...etc. So how do you love a person? The same way as if you loved football.
Can't. I HATE that word. I have one son who believes he can do anything. There is nothing my son doesn't think he can do. However, my other son says "can't" every freakin five minutes! It drives me insane! Can't? Why can't you? Who says you can't? Did you try? Then try again...and again...and again. Ask for help. There is ALWAYS a way. Substitute the word "can't" with "okay" and you will never think you "can't" again. It wasn't the little engine that couldn't...it was the little engine that could. Would you really read the book if it said he couldn't?
M'am. I'd rather say "miss". This one is easy...M'am just sounds OLD no matter WHO you say it to. Miss just sounds much younger.
Why? I love that word. It never comes out sounding good...but that's how I get my information; about anything. If you don't know why...then I will find out from another source/person. I love to learn. Can't help it. Everything has a reason. However, I definitely have learned that everything has a reason, but I will not always learn the reason. Sometimes God is the only one who knows why.
So this post turned out to be a lot longer than I intended. Point is...don't say shit just to hear yourself talk. Sometimes saying nothing...is better understood. DO something to back up your words. We've all heard it...actions speak louder than words.
If you suck at speaking...write it down. But write it in pen...don't type it on the computer and don't write in pencil...and don't have someone else write while you talk. I'd rather get an "I'm sorry" letter that wasn't revised, grammar corrected, or "fixed" to sound great. I'd rather get a "love" letter that was hand-written as opposed to typed or cut n pasted. Get the point?
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