I believe a person is a person and will always be that person...unless something happens or that person desires to be someone different. So basically, if a person doesn't feel anything is wrong with them and being who they are doesn't affect their life negatively, they're never going to change.
I believe men change twice in their life; puberty and around 40 when they become men. Now don't get me wrong, some men only change at puberty and live like teenagers throughout their whole life. My uncle is that guy lol He lives his life like he's 20 when he's really 50 something. Even though he screws a lot of women, literally and figuratively, he's happy. He's living his life and he feels there is nothing wrong with the way he lives it, because he is happy.
Women change a LOT. Not necessarily their personality, but just the way we view things, the way we act and the way we dress. Much of our change is due to hormones. When we get our period, have kids, get a man, and go through menopause. All that stuff affects our hormones...not to mention the amount of activity we engage in every day, running around the kids, taking care of the man, taking care of ourselves, going to work, taking care of the home etc. that takes a toll on our hormones.
I know I have changed, mainly because of my circumstances. Financial hardships can really change your view of life and how you operate, and now that I don't have financial hardships, instead I have healthy challenges. I changed a lot during my marriage. My marriage was a rude awakening because I stopped being an athlete, became a wife and mother all within a matter of months. It sounds corny because we hear it so much on TV, but I really lost myself. I didn't know WHO I was, what I wanted, what I needed and what I had and didn't have, but yet I had a husband and son.
I don't regret anything I've done or gone through, because I really believe it's made me a much stronger person, and I know what I want and need because of it. But I will be the first to admit, I have changed. I am not the same person I was a year ago, two years ago, three years ago and so on. I am a better person. My goals are still the same, but how I go about them is different. My personality is the same, I don't like to lie, I'm blunt, I still have an IDGF attitude if I don't care for you and your opinion, and I'm going to work hard at whatever I do because I want it to be as close to perfection as I can get it. At the same time, I'm still going to love hard (and probably get hurt hard until I find the right one to love) because I believe in go for it all or don't go at all.
Anyway, my point is...the only person you can change is yourself. If you're not happy with your circumstances, you have to make a change. You can't spend your life wanting and hoping for someone else to be different...they could be doing the same thing about you and THEN where do you get? Nowhere. What's that saying, "If you do the same thing over and over again, you will get the same result over and over again." Something like that...that's also a saying about ignorance; doing the same thing and expecting something different. Okay, enough cliches...take from this what you will.
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